If you’re living with ongoing pain, you may have found yourself wondering:
“Why does my body hurt when nothing seems physically wrong?”
Or perhaps you’ve received a diagnosis but still feel like something hasn’t fully been explained.
Many women experience chronic pain alongside stress, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm. And often, the connection between these experiences is never clearly talked about.
The Link Between Stress, Trauma, and Chronic Pain
Your body and mind are deeply connected.
When your nervous system has been under stress for long periods of time, it can remain in a state of heightened alert. Over time, this can begin to show up physically—not just as tension or fatigue, but sometimes as persistent or widespread pain.
For some women, this pain exists alongside a history of prolonged stress, emotional strain, or unprocessed experiences. Not always in obvious ways, but in the quieter patterns of holding things in, pushing through, or not having space to fully process what has been felt.
In the field of trauma, there is a growing understanding that the body can hold onto these experiences. As Bessel van der Kolk describes in The Body Keeps the Score, the body can “keep the score” of what hasn’t yet been processed or resolved.
This doesn’t mean that all chronic pain is caused by trauma. But it does open up a compassionate and important perspective—that the body may sometimes be expressing what hasn’t yet had space to be felt, understood, or released.
A Holistic Approach to Ongoing Pain
Before exploring this further, it’s important to gently acknowledge:
If you are experiencing ongoing or unexplained pain, having this medically assessed is an important and supportive first step.
Many of the women I work with have already done this speaking with their GP, specialists, or allied health professionals and yet still find themselves living with pain that persists, or without clear answers.
It’s often at this point that we begin to widen the lens.
Rather than looking at the body in isolation, we begin to consider the role of the nervous system, stress, and emotional load alongside the physical experience.
When there isn’t a clear explanation, it doesn’t mean the pain isn’t real.
It may simply mean the body needs a different kind of support.
When the Body Has Been Holding Too Much
From a trauma-informed perspective, your nervous system is designed to protect you.
When it has been holding stress for a long time, it can remain in a state of activation. The body stays braced, alert, and ready often without you even realising it.
Over time, this can make it harder for the body to fully rest and repair. Pain signals can become amplified. Muscles may stay tight. The system doesn’t quite switch off.
This isn’t because your body is failing.
It’s because your body has been working hard to keep you going.
When Pain Becomes a Protective Response
There is also another layer that can be helpful to understand gently and without judgement.
At times, the mind and body work together in protective ways that we may not be consciously aware of.
For some women, physical pain can become a way the nervous system redirects attention away from emotions or experiences that feel too overwhelming, confronting, or difficult to process at the time.
This isn’t something you choose, and it’s not something you’re doing wrong.
It’s a protective response.
When the body senses that something may be too much to hold all at once, it can find other ways to express that load sometimes through physical sensations, including pain.
This doesn’t make the pain any less real.
If anything, it highlights just how much your system has been carrying, often quietly and for a long time.
The Pattern Many Women Recognise
Many women living with chronic pain are also the ones who have learned to keep going, no matter what.
They are often deeply caring, highly responsible, and used to putting their own needs to the side. Rest can feel unfamiliar, or even uncomfortable. There can be a quiet pressure to push through, to stay strong, to manage.
Over time, this way of being can become exhausting not just mentally, but physically.
And sometimes, the body begins to ask for attention in a way that can no longer be ignored.
Healing Involves the Whole Person
While medical care can play an important role, many women find that something begins to shift when the nervous system is also supported.
This might look like slowing things down, gently noticing what the body is holding, and creating space for rest, awareness, and emotional processing.
It’s not about “fixing” yourself.
It’s about beginning to relate to your body with more understanding, rather than pressure.
A Personal Note
I also want to gently share that this work is not just professional for me, it’s personal.
I live with chronic pain and have been diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Through both my clinical training and my own journey, I’ve come to deeply understand the connection between the mind, body, and nervous system.
Learning from mind–body approaches, including the work of Dr John Sarno and Nicole Sachs, alongside trauma-informed counselling, has helped me make sense of my own experience in a new way.
This allows me to sit with women not just with knowledge—but with genuine understanding of how complex and real this experience can be.
If you’re living with chronic pain and feel that stress or emotional overwhelm may be part of the picture, you don’t have to navigate this alone.
I offer trauma-informed counselling for women in Adelaide, supporting both emotional wellbeing and the mind–body connection.
This is a space where you don’t have to push through, explain everything perfectly, or hold it all together. Instead, we gently explore what’s been carried, support your nervous system, and begin to create a different relationship with your body.
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